Last week I wrote a blog about not comparing yourself to other people’s versions of life in lockdown. As I said on social media you don’t see the whole of their life the good. the bad and the ugly.
One of the key worries that this can create in your mind is a FOMO (fear of missing out). If other people have lost half a stone getting fit or are having regular virtual quizzes and pub nights with lots of friends and I’m not. What does that say about me? Shouldn’t I have a life like that or am I missing out?
In the pre-corona world this FOMO drove us to feel like we had to be constantly busy, to work harder, have more fun, look better and be endlessly smiling and happy. Unfortunately that constant pressure we put on ourselves is not just exhausting but will also never feel like it’s enough.
If you’ve struggled with FOMO in life before CV are you feeling JOMO now?
In the restricted bubble that is your current world are you feeling lighter or freer?
I heard a colleague of mine Amanda Fitzgerald (an expert in PR) refer to a new emotion JOMO (joy of missing out) and this resonated so much with me as to how I am currently feeling.
I’ve noticed how much I’ve slowed down. I’m not constantly multi-tasking with a never-ending ‘to do’ list on my mind. I take the time to just sit and talk with my kids, to walk the dog with my husband, and to enjoy cooking rather than shoving something in the oven.
I’ve learned to enjoy being present (an essential coaching skill) not just with my clients but also in other areas of my life. I’ve even downloaded PictureThis a plant identifier and Chirpomatic that recognises bird song. Not something I would previously have imagined!
I’m sure a lot of this is also down to the lovely weather and I’ll let you know if I still feel the same when the weather changes. But, after 4 weeks in social distancing, I am really enjoying that sense of JOMO and I’m determined not to lose it when we return to some sort of ‘normality’.
I’d be really interested to hear how you are feeling in these strange times. Which of FOMO or JOMO are you feeling and how has that changed your behaviours?
Stay safe and well and have the best week you can.